Thriving After Scapegoating

The hardest, but most important, parts of moving past family scapegoating were being able to stand up to the ‘Judge’ aka the inner scapegoat, and allowing myself to grieve. I also learned to set limits with family that I never believed were possible, or that I was ‘allowed’ to do. It took a lot of repetitive challenging of beliefs that were submerged in me to stop beating up on myself. Therapy enabled me to build up the ability and stamina to be able to do this. Eventually more positive, and realistic, ideas about myself began to gel. This allowed me to grieve when I realized that I was not responsible for making my parents happy in order to be a lovable person. I still miss not having the family I never got, but the blow of that is eased by how much better I feel about myself. Therapy with Glynis was instrumental in making this happen.