Rediscover the Love You Once Had – Not Long Ago
- Are you in a new committed relationship – recently wed, living together or engaged – and struggling to get along? Does it seem like the honeymoon is over – perhaps before it even started?
- Has the joy you once felt in each other’s company been replaced by arguments, tension, insecurity or loss of closeness and intimacy?
- Have you drifted apart over the years, making you seem like ‘roomates’, and feeling lonely and resentful
- Has there been a breach between you, such as an affair? Do you wonder if you can ever trust your partner again?
- Did one – or both – of you experience neglect or abuse in childhood, making it hard to be open or feel emotionally safe in your relationship?
Work with a Certified Couples Counsellor to get your relationship back on track!
Like most couples you probably started out your relationship with confidence and dreams of a satisfying life together. You had much in common that drew you to each other, and felt hopeful and excited as you got to know each other. Your future looked bright and fulfilling.
But over time, as you became aware of each other’s differences, your relationship has not felt so easy any more. You may wonder if you have fallen out of love, if your partner has changed, or even if you chose the wrong person. Whatever the issue may be, your joy at being together has been replaced by doubt, fear, distance and difficulty communicating. It may be hard to see what you have going for you as a couple, and if there is a way to deal with your differences and save your relationship.
Whether you are a young couple – or a little older – it’s common to experience these kinds of challenges in any relationship. It’s actually a sign of normal ‘growing pains’, and doesn’t mean there’s anything wrong with you or your partner. But you may need to learn how to do things a bit differently together so your relationship can survive and thrive.
New couples – those who are together less than 4 years – need to learn to define and establish both healthy separateness as well as togetherness. This can feel like a let down after the blissful bonding of early love. Many people mistake this challenge as the loss of love. But becoming comfortable as a separate human being within a relationship is both necessary and healthy, for you, your partner and your relationship.
Or perhaps you have been together for a while and find that early love has been replaced by boredom, hurt or resentment. Though it can take extra effort after years of negative patterns of relating, couples who have longer relationships can also learn to appreciate both their separate identity and partner more, and rekindle a loving bond.
Whether you are in a new or longer committed relationship, and struggling to hold onto the loving connection you once had, help is here.
Relationship Counselling Can Help You:
- Understand the difficulties – and opportunities – associated with the normal transition from close bonding aka falling in love, to establishing a healthy sense of separateness within that close bond.
- Get comfortable talking with your partner about your differences and needs, without falling into arguments, silent withdrawal, or feeling overwhelmed, defensive or fearful.
- Feel more secure and capable of supporting your partner so you can appreciate him/her as an individual, while feeling good about the relationship at the same time.
- Learn to stay close and trusting – or rebuild intimacy – as you negotiate this new exciting stage in your relationship.
- Become better communicators with each other, so your relationship feels stronger in the long run.
- Feel more confident and secure about continuing your relationship and avoid the heart break of separation or divorce.
Work with a Highly Skilled and Trained Couples Counsellor
Did you know that many couples counsellors have No Training in relationship counselling? Sadly these therapists offer services based on individual counselling models that are doomed to fail. A good couples therapist knows that your relationship is the ‘client’, and will focus on strengthening your bond so your partnership has a better chance of surviving and thriving for the long term.
As a graduate of the the Couples Institute, Glynis Sherwood has in depth training in how to work effectively with couples to help them get their relationships back on track. Drawing from Attachment Theory, Adult Development and Neuro-psychology models, Glynis knows what works to help couples overcome emotional impasses, breaches of trust, communication break downs and loss of intimacy.
Ready to get back on track with your partner by building a stronger relationship?
Click the Request an Appointment button-upper right-to connect with Glynis