Break Free of the Pain of Trauma
- Are you stuck recycling the pain of past traumatic events and want to learn to live again for today, so you can look forward to tomorrow?
- Do you feel anxious or depressed as a result of being abused – emotionally, physically or sexually?
- Are you an adult survivor of family scapegoating or abuse?
- Were you abused or neglected as a child, and struggle to recover your self worth and identity as an adult?
Trauma & Recovery
Trauma occurs when there has been an extreme shock to the mind and/or body, making it difficult for the mind to process and integrate the shock in a healthy way. This shock can be caused by a single incident, a series of traumatic experiences over a life time, or be the result of childhood neglect or abuse. Traumatic experiences can cause serious psychological problems such as chronic anxiety, panic, insomnia, anger, depression, feeling ‘spaced out’ or numb, and can negatively impact relationships. Trauma has also been linked to heightened physical pain, and the development of autoimmune disorders such as fibromyalgia, rheumatoid arthritis and other chronic inflammatory conditions.
A ‘normal’ response to trauma involves making sense of the trauma, working through your emotions, and gradually coming out of the shock. Trauma turns into post traumatic stress (PTSD) if you remain stuck in psychological shock. Post traumatic ‘re-enactment’ occurs when a person experiences frightening emotions, memories, dreams or sensations from the past, in the present moment. PTSD can also manifest as a freeze response, such as numbing, going blank, spacing out, not knowing how you are feeling in a moment of emotional challenge, or losing a sense of time
Post traumatic stress reactions can be physical – such as your heart pounding or nausea; emotional – such as intense fear or anxiety, or feeling empty and disconnected from oneself ; or in your thoughts or memories – such as flashing back in your mind to the traumatic incident and feeling like you are living it all over again. Traumatic re-enactment can occur while dreaming or awake. It can be a disorienting or scary experience that can cause a person to believe that they can’t function and may not ever recover. The common factor in post traumatic reactions is a heightened stress response – resulting in being over or under-activated – after the event has occurred. In this way PTSD can be understood as a memory disorder, whereby the mind ‘believes’ that past traumas are reoccurring in the moment, making it extremely difficult to process non-traumatic stressors and to regulate emotions effectively.
A major problem with traumatic stress is that it becomes ‘locked’ in both the body and mind, where it remains active. When this happens, the traumatized person either feels like they are re-experiencing frightening emotions, sensations and memories from the past, shuts down emotionally, or goes back and forth between both states. In this situation, your mind can’t tell the difference between the past – when the trauma occurred, and the present – when the threat is over. So trauma can cause the sufferer to feel like the original trauma – such as an abuse, neglect, assault or an accident, assault – is happening in the present moment, long after the trauma has ended. This causes serious disruptions to a person’s ability to feel in control of their emotions, and keeps the sufferer stuck in reliving the pain.
Attachment Trauma, Childhood Neglect and Complex PTSD
If you were raised in a household where you experienced inadequate, poor or abusive parenting, then you are more vulnerable to attachment trauma and habituated stress responses. Developing children require consistent, supportive care and positive mirroring from parental figures in order to become secure adults. Neglected and abused children often feel abandoned, panicky and trapped, especially if they have no outside adult supports, which in turn can lead to traumatic stress responses. The experience of relentless mistreatment and unmet emotional needs leads to the development of hard wired stress responses, specifically fight, flight, freeze or collapse. Under these circumstances, the developing brains of abused children become flooded with stress hormones, which dramatically interfere with the brains ability to regulate normal stressers in an adaptive way. Later in life, these traumatically stressed kids may grow up to be anxious, distressed adults, who suffer from low self worth and feelings of hopelessness, as they lack a foundation of secure attachment and self identity that leads to feelings of emotional safety and belonging in the world. They may suffer from a condition known as Complex PTSD (C-PTSD). The symptoms of C-PTSD include feelings of false shame and guilt, difficulty managing emotions, periods of losing attention and concentration, isolation and relationship difficulties.
Whether you are suffering from Attachment Trauma, PTSD, or Complex PTSD, you know how overwhelming and hopeless it can feel. The good news is that you don’t have to stay trapped in the pain.
Trauma therapy can help you recover and regain control of your life. Counselling to overcome traumatic stress combines talk therapy with anxiety reducing strategies such as Hypnosis, guided visualizations and EMDR. Trauma therapy focuses on overcoming fear based beliefs, containing stress triggers, and calming and regulating your nervous system and emotional brain, so they stop responding traumatically in the present moment. Over time, the front brain learns to process the trauma that’s locked in the emotional brain, leading to a reduction or elimination of symptoms.
Trauma Counselling Can Help You:
- Feel less anxious, fearful or depressed
- Eliminate intrusive memories or nightmares
- Feel more confident about your ability to stay grounded in the present moment, and less numb, ‘spaced out’ or dissociative
- Get off the emotional roller coaster and recover your peace of mind
- Reconnect with feelings of optimism and hope
- Overcome ‘Survivor Guilt’
- Deal with grief and loss associated with emotional hurt and/or physical injury
- Cope with changes in family dynamics and challenges in friendships
- Rebuild relationships that have been harmed by the trauma
With the right help, you can heal and enjoy life again.
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