Discover the Love You Dream Of & Deserve
- Did one – or both – of you experience neglect or abuse in childhood, making it hard to be open or feel emotionally secure in your relationship?
- Were you raised by narcissistic parents and struggle to know what a healthy, trusting relationship should look or feel like?
- When you experience conflict in your relationship, do you tend to become avoidant and retreat, or do you tend to cling to your partner and keep the argument going? Either way, you may be dealing with Insecure Attachment distress. Couples therapy can help you learn to feel much more secure together as you heal your Attachment wounds.
- Are you in a new committed relationship – recently wed, living together or engaged – and struggling to get along? Does it seem like the honeymoon is over – perhaps before it even started?
- Has the joy you once felt in each other’s company been replaced by arguments, tension, insecurity or loss of closeness and intimacy?
- Have you drifted apart over the years, making you seem like ‘roomates’, and feeling lonely and resentful
- Has there been a breach between you, such as an affair? Do you wonder if you can ever trust your partner again?
Work with a Certified Couples Counselor to get your relationship back on track!
Glynis Sherwood MEd is a Graduate of the highly acclaimed Couples Institute in California and
Terry Real’s Relational Life Therapy Training program
Video Therapy & Counseling is available world wide
Like most couples you probably started out your relationship with confidence and dreams of a satisfying life together. You had much in common that drew you together, and felt hopeful and excited as you got to know each other. Your future looked bright and fulfilling.
But over time, as you became aware of each other’s differences, your relationship has not felt so easy any more. You may wonder if you have fallen out of love, if your partner has changed, or even if you chose the wrong person. Whatever the issue may be, your joy at being together has been replaced by doubt, fear, distance and difficulty communicating. It may be hard to see what you have going for you as a couple, and if there is a way to deal with your differences and save your relationship.
Whether you are a young couple – or a little older – it’s common to experience these kinds of challenges in any relationship. It’s actually a sign of normal ‘growing pains’, and doesn’t mean there’s anything wrong with you or your partner. But you may need to learn how to do things a bit differently together so your relationship can survive and thrive.
New couples – those who are together less than 4 years – need to learn to define and establish both healthy separateness as well as togetherness. This can feel like a let down after the blissful bonding of early love. Many people mistake this challenge as the loss of love. But becoming comfortable as a separate human being within a relationship is both necessary and healthy, for you, your partner and your relationship.
Or perhaps you have been together for a while and find that early love has been replaced by boredom, hurt or resentment. Though it can take extra effort after years of negative patterns of relating, couples who have longer relationships can also learn to appreciate both their separate identity and partner more, and rekindle a loving bond.
Whether you are in a new or longer committed relationship, and struggling to hold onto the loving connection you once had, help is here.
Losing that romantic connection with your partner can feel sad and scary, but it doesn’t mean your relationship is over. Couple counseling and therapy can help you reconnect in an open, supportive way that will make your relationship feel more loving and stronger than ever!
Relationship Counseling Can Help You:
- Understand the difficulties – and opportunities – associated with the normal transition from close bonding aka falling in love, to establishing a healthy sense of separateness within that close bond.
- Get comfortable talking with your partner about your differences and needs, without falling into arguments, silent withdrawal, or feeling overwhelmed, defensive or fearful.
- Calm Attachment fears from a difficult childhood, so you can feel more secure and capable of supporting your partner and appreciate him/her as an individual, while feeling good about the relationship at the same time.
- Learn to stay close and trusting – or rebuild intimacy – as you negotiate this new exciting stage in your relationship.
- Become better communicators with each other, so your relationship feels stronger in the long run.
- Feel more confident and secure about continuing your relationship and avoid the heart break of separation or divorce.
Work with a Skilled and Trained Couples Therapist
Did you know that many couples counselors have No Training in relationship counseling? Sadly these therapists offer services based on individual counseling models that are doomed to fail. A good couples therapist knows that your relationship is the ‘client’, and will focus on strengthening your bond so your partnership has a better chance of surviving and thriving for the long term.
As a graduate of the the Couples Institute in California, and the Relational Life Therapy Institute in Boston, Glynis Sherwood has in depth training in how to work effectively with couples to help them get their relationships back on track. Drawing from Attachment Theory, Adult Development and Neuro-psychology models, Glynis knows what works to help couples overcome emotional impasses, breaches of trust, communication break downs and loss or fear of intimacy.
Ready to get back on track with your partner by building a stronger relationship?
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