by Glynis Sherwood Why Go Low Contact? It’s Complicated! People who have been scapegoated often decide to maintain low contact with abusive people for a variety of complex reasons. Current circumstances may dictate that some contact is ‘required’ or unavoidable with scapegoater(s) and/or their ‘allies’ for the following reasons: living in the same […]
Self Help Books My Clients Are Loving
Here’s a list of books that my psychotherapy clients and I have found to be helpful, practical or just plain inspiring in the journey to becoming the people they are meant to be. The Abandoned Child Within: On Losing and Regaining Self-Worth Hardcover ~ Kathrin Asper Adult Children of Immature Parents: How to […]
Family Scapegoat Relationship Challenges
Many people who were scapegoated by family during childhood grow into strong adults who are capable of forming loving and supportive relationships. For a significant minority of scapegoats however, relationships – with themselves and others – are challenged by ongoing problems with trust, self worth, shame and healthy boundaries. Read on to discover roadblocks to […]
Complicated Grief Therapy
Training Article & Case Consultation Available My article below on chronic grief therapy – published in Insights magazine – was previously only available to members of the British Columbia Association of Clinical Counselors. This comprehensive training article is designed to help counselors work more effectively with people who are stuck in ‘the pain that […]
Scapegoat Recovery: How To Heal From Being The Family Scapegoat
Scapegoating is an insidious form of family bullying that is destructive to both the target and family alike. Family should be a refuge for all, but becomes destructive through three main mechanisms – hostility, betrayal and ostracization of the scapegoat. Scapegoating creates an adversarial atmosphere of winners and losers, where loyalty is for sale […]
GRIEF & ADDICTION RECOVERY
A while ago I received this email from a woman experiencing the opposite of the positive emotions she had hoped to find in recovery. “I’m in recovery from alcoholism and should feel happy, but I feel sad and angry and empty – almost like I’m grieving. But not only has nobody has died, in […]
Depression Is Not A Disease
The disease model of depression – and anti-depressant use – has been aggressively promoted by the pharmaceutical industry, and embraced by many mental health professionals. This is alarming given that there is no proof that shortages of neurotransmitters – such as serotonin or dopamine – cause depression. It may actually be the reverse, that […]
Attachment Adaptations and Relationships – Developing Healthy Communication Styles
Individual differences in how we deal with anxiety impacts how we respond internally – and externally – to relationship challenges, and is reflected in our interpersonal communication styles. ~ Glynis Sherwood Insecure Attachment in Relationships When you disagree with a loved one or friend how do you handle it? Do you feel anxious and tend to […]
The Workplace Scapegoat: How To Recover From Workplace Bullying
What Is Workplace Bullying? Workplace bullying is scapegoating on the job. Many people who are bullied at work suffer alone due to the silencing effects of being blamed, shamed, humiliated and fearful of losing employment. Next to the threat of losing income, the deepest harm from workplace bullying stems from the emotional, social and spiritual […]
Socially Unrecognized Grief – It’s in the Eye of the Beholder
We grieve in direct proportion to the meaning of our loss What is legitimate grief? Who decides what losses we may rightly mourn, for what length of time and how? It is my belief that grief is in the eye of the beholder, meaning that as human beings we grieve in direct proportion to what […]
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